My 6yo needs constant prompts… should I stop being the reminder?

I’m genuinely torn and could use some parent perspective.

My daughter is 6. When I give her structure (quick reminders, “okay next is teeth,” “then pajamas,” a little check-in), she’s fine. She’ll get through the routine and tasks without much resistance. But when I intentionally stop reminding because I want her to build independence and be self-driven, she tends to drift. Things don’t get done, and bedtime is the hardest: if I don’t cue the steps, she’ll wander around and end up staying up way too late.

So now I’m spiraling a bit:

- If I keep reminding her, am I creating dependence on prompts instead of helping her learn to initiate on her own?

- If I stop reminding her, am I removing the scaffolding she genuinely needs at this age and setting her up to fail?

I’m not trying to call her lazy. She’s a sweet kid and does well when there's a clear reminder. I just don’t know what’s normal for 6 and what’s something I should be actively teaching.

How do you reduce reminders without everything falling apart? What worked for you?